Friday 15 June 2012

"There's Always Porridge"

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Occasionally while driving home after a long day at work, the sun going down quicker than I’d like and all three children tired and cranky, I remember I forgot to turn the slow cooker on this morning! I start frantically racking my brains for what I can whip up in the kitchen (and for anyone who knows me well enough, knows this is far from one of my forte’s). Without a single decent meal coming to mind, I sing out “who’d like porridge for dinner?” Thankfully my darlings are very easily pleased and I get a resounding “YAY, ME!!” While they spend the rest of the drive across town discussing who will have banana and who will have honey on top, I breathe a sigh of relief and smile to myself knowing my husband is not going to be as ecstatic about tonight’s menu.

Since the women in my family have been thrust into the world of toddlerhood we have had a long standing joke that unless you’ve had weetbix for dinner you really haven’t lived!

For all you mums and dads out there who are striving to be the best you can be by putting the most nutritious food on the table…because that’s what good parents do…well I’m about to tell you my little secret. Every so often…there’s always porridge!

Ahh, the joys of parenting! What will you be having for dinner tonight?

Bec xxx

For Camille who will forever remember "there’s always porridge".




Thursday 7 June 2012

BUDGET UPDATE - June 2012

Families are affected by this years Federal Budget.  Naomi Alleston from Achievit Financial Planning tells us how.


Budget measures and announcements – learn how the Federal Budget will impact your family finances.

Taxation

Effective 1 July 2012 (already legislated)

 Changes to Income Tax Rates

Following the introduction of the Carbon Tax, it was announced that the personal income tax rates would change by adjusting the rates and the low income tax offset to create a higher effective tax-free threshold.

This achieves tax savings for anyone earning $80,000 or less. Those individuals earning more than $80,000 will not be affected.
                                                                                              

Australian Resident Rates       


Tax
Thresholds


2011/12
Threshold


Rate


2012/13
Threshold

Rate

2015/16
Threshold

Rate
1
$6,001 – $37, 000
15%
$18,201 - $37,000
19%
$19,401 - $37,000
19%
2
$37,001 – $80, 000
30%
$37,001 – $80,000
32.5%
$37,001 - $80,000
33%
3
$80,001 – $180,000
37%
$80,001 - $180,000
37%
$80,001 - $180,000
37%
4
$180,001 & above
45%
$180,001 & above
45%
$180,001 & above
 45%
Low Income
Tax Offset
(LITO)

$1,500


#4% above
$30,000

$445


#1.5% above
$37,000

$300


#1% above
$37,000
Effective tax
free threshold

$16,000


$20,542


$20,979




# Rate at which LITO reduces above threshold


Net Medical Expense Tax Offset – Income Test

Effective from 1 July 2012

Currently, people who incur more than $2,060 of net medical expenses (after Medicare and private health fund refunds) receive a 20% tax offset on the balance above $2,060.


For individuals with an adjusted taxable income above $84,000 (families $168,000), the $2,060 cap will increase to $5,000 with the rate of reimbursement to drop to 10% for eligible out of pocket expenses.

People with income below $84,000 will continue to access the $2,060 cap.


Social Security and welfare payments


Schoolkids Bonus

Effective from 1 January 2013


The Government will replace the Education Tax Refund (ETR) with a Schoolkids Bonus to be paid as two equal instalments in January and July each year. Families in receipt of Family Tax Benefit Part A (FTB A) will be paid:

• $410 p.a. for each primary school student, and

• $820 p.a. for each secondary school student



All eligible families will receive the full rate of payment. As a result, families are no longer required to retain receipts as proof of purchase or wait until they submit their tax return. Hooray!


Changes to Family Tax Benefit Part A

Effective from 1 July 2013

The Government will increase the maximum payment of FTB A by:-

• $300 p.a. for families with 1 child, and

• $600 p.a. for families with 2 or more children

For families receiving the base rate of FTB A, the increase will be:-

• $100 p.a. for families with 1 child, and

• $200 p.a. for families with 2 or more children

For example, a family with two children under the age of 12 will receive a $600 boost, up to a family adjusted taxable income of around $78,000 p.a. or a $200 boost, with a family adjusted taxable income between around $78,000 p.a. and around $112,000 p.a.

Additionally, the Government will tighten the age requirement for FTB A from less than 21 years of age, to less than 18 years of age (or where a young person remains in secondary school, the end of the calendar year in which they turn 19). Individuals who no longer qualify for FTB A may be eligible to receive Youth Allowance subject to usual eligibility requirements.


Childcare costs

Additional help with childcare costs. For parents on income support who are wanting to return to work, the government will provide extra help to meet out-of-pocket childcare expenses through the Jobs, Education and Training Child Care Fee Assistance program. You can find out more here.


Parenting Payment – tightening of the qualification rules

Effective from 1 January 2013

Currently, recipients of Parenting Payment (PP) who were granted the payment prior to 1 July 2006 do not lose eligibility until their youngest child attains age 16.

The Government will align PP eligibility for all recipients so that the payment will cease when the youngest child attains age 6 (for partnered recipients), or age 8 (for single recipients).

 Liquid Asset Waiting Period

Effective from 1 July 2013

The Government will increase the maximum reserve amount for the liquid assets waiting period for recipients of particular income support payments. Liquid assets are assets in the form of cash or those which can be easily converted into cash, including shares and term deposits. A single person without dependents will now have an increased maximum reserve amount of $5,000, while a person who is a member of a couple and/or has a dependent child will now have an increased maximum reserve amount of $10,000.

The change will affect applicants for Newstart Allowance, Youth Allowance, Sickness Allowance and Austudy payments.

Thank you to our guest blogger - Naomi Alleston

Growing up in a farming and small business family provided the foundation for understanding the importance of finance and planning for the future - whatever the future brings.

Offering holistic, fee for advice services, with a logical approach, I start all financial mapping with cash flow details and take the financial planning journey with my clients to help them achieve their financial goals.

Combining my knowledge and passion with our clients dreams... We can ACHIEVEIT




'Easy' Doesn't Mean it's a Cakewalk


The decision to have kids was one that my husband and I had made years before we got married. It wasn’t a decision as such, more of an agreement on what we had always wanted for our lives together – to raise a family and live happily ever after. So when we decided to start trying for a baby and then fell pregnant straight away, I couldn’t believe how perfectly things had gone for us. When I say ‘I couldn’t believe it...’ I mean that quite literally – I couldn’t accept that things had happened so easily and I convinced myself that the pregnancy would fail. It wasn’t all in my head - there were worrying signs that the pregnancy may not progress, and as these continued and the weeks went on I resigned myself to miscarriage in an effort to prepare myself for a loss. I was worried, sad, and miserable, and felt unable to take any joy in what was meant to be one of the most exciting stages of my married life. I found these early months of the pregnancy very difficult, and I wish we had sought the support and warmth of My Midwives earlier than we did.

And so I couldn’t believe the image on the monitor when we went for our 12-week scan - a perfectly formed baby that kicked and wiggled about. Wow, I really was going to have a baby! I loved every minute of the remainder of my pregnancy, and relished the excitement and anticipation that my husband and I shared.

Things continued well for us with the birth of our daughter. We had a healthy little girl who fed and slept well, was loved by many and seemed happy and content. She is what most people would call an ‘easy’ baby, although I wonder how many first-time mothers actually use this term. Of all the advice I was given when pregnant (and there was plenty!) the comment I was most grateful for in those early weeks was this: “Remember, even if you have an ‘easy’ baby, it’s still okay to find it hard.” I have somewhat of a short tether, and I’ve always worried that my tendency to become easily frustrated would be a major shortcoming in my abilities as a mother. I can’t remember how old my baby was the first time that I yelled at her when she wouldn’t stop crying, but I do remember the shocked look on her little face. I quickly put her in her bassinette and walked into the lounge room and sat down and cried. My fears were confirmed – I couldn’t handle caring for a baby. How was I going to cope when she was a toddler? What about when I had more than one child to care for? The disappointment I felt in myself was matched only by my guilt for what I had done.  I wish I could say I never lost my temper and yelled at her again, but I’m sure in the haze of those sleep-deprived early weeks it happened more than once.

Everyone said that things would get easier, and gradually they have. I know that I feel more like myself now; however I know that fundamentally I am forever changed. It’s not a piece of my heart that is attached to my daughter - it feels more like a piece of my gut, my core. It’s hard to describe, but I live in a whole different world now, and she is at its centre.
I realise now that of all the expectations I had of how life as a mother would be, what I wasn’t prepared for was the love. Nothing can prepare you for that. It sort of snuck up on me until I realised it one day when she smiled gently at me from her cot. The love grows with each grasp of her little hand, gazes from big blue eyes that look up at me while she feeds, and smiles that transform her little face. Each gummy grin she bestows makes my eyes water with tears.  She has been smiling for weeks, and I am still afflicted with my misty-eyed condition! How long does this last for? Surely I can endure a smile dry-eyed one day?
The best part is that I know it’s going to keep getting even better. I know the challenging times aren’t over, and I know that in some ways, it is the love that will make things really hard sometimes. But I think that it’s the love that will get us through, too.


Thank you to our guest blogger.

Tuesday 5 June 2012

Grandparents

That unconditional, overpowering love you feel when you give birth changes your life.

I have been blessed with two amazing daughters.  Of course there have been times in their lives when I have been fearful for them, afraid of the choices they made.  Other times I have been intensely proud of them, rejoicing in their choices!  Cried with and for them as they had their hearts broken, and celebrated when they have announced they have found the man they wished to spend the rest of their lives with.

I was totally unprepared for the emotion I felt when each of them, in turn, announced they were to become mothers. To see them grow both physically and emotionally during their pregnancies.  The knowledge they acquired during this time, making sure they were comfortable with the choices they made.  I know that both girls were much more informed than ever I was during my pregnancies.

I now have four amazing grandchildren.  It is impossible to describe the love I have for them, somehow I almost feel as though I have been given a “second chance”.  I certainly do not have the day to day responsibility, but feel if it is possible to pass on some of the experiences of my life and to be privileged to assist with the teaching, by example, of values and respect that I hope my children’s children will accept in their daily lives. Words can’t really describe this relationship, only a grandparent really knows what it is like to experience this uniqueness, the undying love that will never fade.  The forgiveness I know I will have when they falter and the pride at every success be it small or large.  The wonder at seeing a baby’s eyes light up when there is recognition of your face, their first steps, first swimming lesson,  first day at school, first public performance and so the “firsts” continue.

To every grandmother who has lost a grandchild, my heart goes out to you.  I cannot imagine a more difficult loss.

To my beautiful daughters, thank you for giving me this most precious gift.  And to God for his amazing blessings.

A garden of Love grows in a Grandmother’s heart”  Author Unknown


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